Speaking of things that'll get the preacher run out on a rail...

These bullet points are taken from Thomas Vincent's 1674 work, The Shorter Catechism Explained From Scripture, on the smaller of the Westminster catechisms. I've retained Vincent's wording of the points below, and included the Scriptures he referenced in proof of each point.

[Biographical note on Thomas Vincent: He was a 17th Century pastor in London. The work in view here was endorsed by some of his contemporaries including John Owen and Thomas Watson, and 38 other signatories to Westminster. He endured harsh treatment for his faith and was noted for his courageous preaching in the midst of the suffering multitudes during the Great Plague of 1665.]

What are the duties of wives to their husbands?

1. "Love of them above all other persons in the world." Titus 2:4

2. "Loyalty and faithfulness, in reference unto the bed and estate, and any secrets intrusted with them." Hebrews 13:4, 1 Tim 3:11

3. "Reverence and fear of offending them" Ephesians 5:33

4. "Subjection unto them in all things lawful under Christ" Ephesians 5:22,24

5. "Care to please them, suiting themselves to their disposition, and all things to their liking." 1 Cor 7:34

6. "Helping them to bear their burdens, and in making provision for their families" Gen 2:18, Prov 31:27

7. "Giving ear to, and complying with, the counsels of their husbands, if good, for their souls' welfare; and endeavoring, with meekness and wisdom, with kindness and loving admonition, and a chaste, sweet conversation, to win their husbands over to the ways of God, when they are wicked." 1 Peter 3:1-2

[I'm thinking that preaching 5 and 7 will get you killed...]

What are the duties of husbands to their wives?

1. "Most endeared love to them, like unto the love of Christ to his Church" Eph 5:25

2. "Dwelling with them, and, according to knowledge, honouring them, and delighting in their company." Eph 5:31, 1 Peter 3:7, Prov 5:18-19

3. "Tenderness towards them, and careful provision of food and raiment, and all things necessary for them, as for their own bodies." Eph 5:28-29

4. "Fidelity to them in keeping the marriage-covenant, so as to forebear the use of any other besides themselves." Hos 3:3

5. "Protection of them from injuries, and covering of their infirmities with the wings of love." 1 Sam 30:18, 1 Pet 4:8

6. "Care to please them in all things lawful and fit, and praise of them when they do well." 1 Cor 7:33

7. "Prayer with them and for them, counsel and admonition of them, and every way helping them, especially in reference to their souls, walking with them in the ways and ordinances of the Lord" 1 Pet 3:7, Luke 1:6

[Note the encouragement for husbands to function in a pastoral role in 7.]